The other day i was at a coffee shop with my frd
and we came across a table where we saw and guy
and a gal along with their families engaging...
a kande pohe program to be precise, to my non
maharastrian readers....indian traditional dating
where even parents accompany the dating
individuals.
It was amusing at first site...but later it
occur ed to us that both the gal and the guy were
very uncomfortable... she looked very nervous and
the guy was trying his best to keep his wits in
place and act nice.... It was such a sorry plight.
I find this arrangement amusing....i mean why dont
parents understand that these two are grown up
individuals and let them decide for themselves if
they have found their companion...
"Marriage is institution, sacred, holistic...its
made in heaven..its meeting of two souls, another
definition to it...its meeting of two families...
who should one place first....yourself, your family or the society...
If you are compromising your aspirations keeping the family and society interest first are you really contend with it??? Are you willing to play along for a lifetime?? A price you are willing to pay just to be align with the rest...
I really appreciate couples who have gone lenghts to ensure their relationship worksout even if it meant making sacrifices and adjustments...
However I would prefer relationships to be maintained effortlessly something that my frd at work mentioned... how true. Why get into something for the heck of it...life will be more blissful if there is a proper understanding and connection between the two...
I know I am strong headed and confident and but at times i do feel the need for someone's comfort, who is understanding and caring...
you are surrounded by a sea of people love you for what you are but you still long for those strong arms which will embrace you and in his arms, you wish to forget everything and heal your heart....I dont know whether every women thinks like that or is it just my need for the hour....
when I am my own companion, I fantasise a blur image where i find the guy of my dreams holding me in his arms and i can feel the sense of securedness,the comfort, the sheer contentment of knowing somebody is there standing by me, who loves me and would never let me down....
but I guess you only find such guys in your wildest fantasy...or love itself is a fantasy and the joy ride just ended....
I am tired of saying to self "get practical gal, what u r looking for is probably no
more there in this world or probably not meant for me."
I am content with my life but if only i did had a chance to experience the true love...i did end it well. My mind is stupid in spite of being unlucky in love I am still counting my chances....I have hope and that is wat keeps me going....Life at this stage is so uncertain, it sometimes scares me to think what if I dont really ever get to see that day....but i m willing to risk it, Not to comprise I rather stick to my choice.....so where are you my sunshine.....its about time you rise and shine on me....truly, madly and deeply......
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Well Sang!! I think this Khanda Poha is a great thing for people who have not managed to find thier partners by themselves.. And to be frank i donot think that relationship can be maintained effortlessly all the time as everyone is going through changes and it is not possible for the change to occur together and to the same extent and in the same direction. The important things is that both want the relation to work out and are ready to work towards making is effortless in the future. Making effort is a on going thing as the change is going.
ReplyDeleteBut surely donot get into anything for the heck of it..Keep ur eyes closed and ur arms open and love will come to you..
LOL i like that....with my eyes closed....u mean put blind faith.....I am convinced by your thought that not all are outgoing and need help... what i meant by putting effort is at the begning of a realtionship not when u r in it... that is why i dont want to close my eyes and let marraige be an eye opener...if maintaining frdship and understanding requires effort then there certainly a disconnect... you just for anyone who walks into your life... there are to some distinct attraction... i m not talking abt looks i m talking of the overall package... I think ayone can get what they wish if there are ready to wait and keep trying....must watch love impossible...let see wat it has to say ;)
ReplyDeleteI truly agreed with Bhanu, i also want to explain the same that bhanu told you.
ReplyDeletei know that we live in 21st century, and we have a right of choice which is really affects to our life. but still i believe on arrange marriage not on Love marriage.Sorry sang, may u think i m so much orthodox. but the risk is at both sides, wheather u takes decision or ur parents take decision for you.
As per bhanu said, close your eyes and open ur arms to welcome the future. it's not a part of blind faith. please dont take tensions for your life. I think God is there for everyone to take tension. Just leave everything to God and relax your mind, then automatically u will close ur eyes. Have a very strong positive approach towards life, it will fulfill your dreams and ambitions...
love u
smu u need not be sorry....thats ur take on life... my take is i rather live my life by my choice then be led by nyone into it....thats wat i meant by being strong headed...and there r not many indian men who respect that !!!!, i want to live my life to the the fullest and i want to live my dream and my dream is far more than just being "happliy married" (i learnt this term is an oxymoron!!!)
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